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WHY I STARTED CANCER BULLY

Cancer. A single word that strikes fear into so many hearts. But it doesn’t have to. I created Cancer Bully to challenge that fear—and replace it with hope, strength, and faith in your body’s ability to heal.

This isn’t about telling anyone what to do. I’m not a doctor, and I don’t give medical advice. What I share is my journey and the deeply personal experiences that shaped the way I view cancer today.

IT STARTED WITH MY FATHER

In the mid-90s, my father—a lifelong smoker—was diagnosed with lung cancer. The tumor was the size of a lemon. He was terrified of hospitals, and at that time, very little was shared about how the body could fight disease naturally.

Then he found a book called Life Extension by Durk Pearson and Sandy Shaw. It became his guide. He quit drinking and smoking cold turkey, transformed his diet, and took daily supplements—vitamins A, C, D, E, and K. At first, we thought he’d lost it.

But then, something changed. The bleeding in his coughs stopped. A year and a half later, a new scan showed no sign of the tumor. The doctor—unaware of his prior diagnosis—found nothing. That moment changed our lives.

MY WIFE’S BATTLE: A TURNING POINT

In 1996, I married my amazing beautiful girlfriend (Vilaivanh), of 10 years. It was the happiest most amazing day of my life—surrounded by friends and family from as far away as France and Laos. Vilaivanh had natural motherly instincts as the oldest girl in a family of 9, Vilaivanh took on the roll of mother following the passing of her mom to cancer at the very young age of 38. So it was natural that we started thinking about having our own family. However………..

Two years later we received devastating news: stage 4 cervical cancer. Inoperable. She was given months to live. But after losing both her parents to cancer and being told a radical hysterectomy was her only option she wanted to try something different.

We embarked on a two-year journey—Holistic cancer treatment center in Mexico, Ozone, Hyperbaric Oxygen and enzyme therapies from Germany and a strict juicing and diet routine known as the Gerson Therapy. Slowly, her bleeding subsided, she was getting her energy and strength back and decided it was time to let her oncologist look again. We were overjoyed to find that her tumors shrank and her doctor called her “operable.” Wanting to get her life back to normal and get back to the job she loved as a flight attendant. Vilaivanh had the operation and was told “They got it all” and she was cancer free!! But six months later, the cancer came back stronger than ever. She passed away a short time later, surrounded by love and acceptance of her saying goodbye to all of us. I still believe that had we stayed the course, her body might have continued to heal. 

A side note – there is something to be said about people with degenerative disease. I learned this from many of the doctors we worked with and other I have talked with. People with degenerative disease are more accepting of death. Most often, they have had time to see all of their loved ones, given the chance to say I love you and as time goes on, they feel they are burdening everyone that has been there to help and they feel gratitude to give them their life back while they move on. 

MY OWN DIAGNOSIS

In 2016, I thought I was having a heart attack. Instead, scans showed late-stage lung cancer: a 10 cm tumor and three smaller ones. The doctors urged a biopsy and prepared me for a ventilator. But something didn’t feel right.

From my research, I believed tumors often serve as a protective barrier. Once disturbed—especially through biopsy or surgery—cancer can spread aggressively. So, I got dressed. I walked out. Doctors warned me I’d die if I didn’t start treatment.

That was nine years ago.

I BECAME A CANCER BULLY

I chose to trust my body. I chose to trust in its design, its resilience, and its ability to heal. Whether you take a conventional path, an alternative one, or a mix of both—your journey is your own.

But it starts with refusing to be afraid. With standing up and saying: I will not let this disease define me. That’s what it means to be a Cancer Bully.

FINAL THOUGHT

Cancer is not the end. It’s a challenge—a test. And with the right mindset, the right support, and belief in your body, it can be overcome.

This is my story. And now I share it with you—not as advice, but as proof that hope is real, and healing is possible.